To "have" attention does not mean to own it, govern it, or possess it as an object. It means that whatever I experience is given through attention. I "have" a thought in the same sense that I "have" a sensation, memory, fear, or moment of clarity: it has become present to me.
Ansel Friday’s Letter Home (Anaima #4)
That’s where it gets strange. // Because the only thing we’ve found that actually sustains that kind of relationship is what humans call love. / Not sentiment — commitment. / The willingness to stay when the system becomes costly to hold.
